To my negative Nancys

I accidently posted this on positive thinking day.

I want to take a second to talk to my fellow Negative Nancy's. You are valid, your current negative status is valid. You don't need to be a positive Peggy to be taken seriously, to be noticed for the work you do. You had a bad day? Have a bad day, be angry, sulk, go through the emotions you need to go through. Don't hide it. Someone did you wrong? Let them know it. They can't treat you like that! You are just as strong and amazing as anyone else and you deserve respect and recognition. Don't want to bend to social structure? You don't have to. You think those positive Peggy's are? No. No one is. Don't take in that toxic positively. You can have bad vibes, you can have dark thoughts, you can have negative emotions. It's how you deal with them that makes a difference. How you choose to let the emotions affect you long term. If you don't let people give you shit, why would you let your emotions do it? You are stronger than that. Now go forth and have a good crappy day.

This is a post I made on Linkedin while on the bus on my way to work. I am not sure what bought this on but I think I know why it came.

I listen to podcasts a lot during the week and one of my favorites is ‘the uncurated life” podcast, this podcast is basically an honest look into the lives of internet influencers, what they really feel about things happening around them and the stuff that the camera doesn’t show. I love this podcast because the Hostess, Cindy, is one of the most amazing people that I have ever had the pleasure of seeing and listening to. I have spoken to her a few times, a few words exchanged during some lives streams but I have not been able to as of late due to work.

Her podcast is honesty the reason why I want to make my own. There needs to be a bit more negativity out in the world that isn’t toxic. You can be negative and still not be a horrid, toxic person. I highly agree with Cindy that toxic positively is a big problem in our society.

Being constantly shamed by big cooperation’s for feeling what you are feeling, for not having a good day every day. Not all of us can work at jobs that we love and that aren’t a drain on our lives. I myself am currently in a job with people I care deeply for and want to see succeed, but the job itself is very draining emotionally and mentally.

I think about quitting constantly but I don’t want to leave them. I do think that it might be necessary to leave this job soon in order to be the coach that I want to be. If I can leave this place in better shape than I found it then it will be a win for me. (Campground rules FTW)

However, that is neither here nor there, I want to go back to the post that I made, it’s ok to be negative. Some of us are just not positive people, and honestly that is ok. As long as you don’t let the negativity get to a point where it’s toxic or harmful to others or yourself, it’s fine.

Why do I think this?

I think that all of us, are negative for a reason. You are negative because you don’t feel good, emotionally, mentally or physically. You are negative because the environment you are in is not to your liking, or is toxic to you. Maybe someone is grinding on you constantly (even if it’s unintentional). All of these reasons, all of these elements are valid. It’s your mind, it’s your emotions, if they are causing you negativity that isn’t debilitating then by all means be negative.

However, we need to discuss something important. Your negativity must not affect others. If you are in a bad mood let it run its course but there is no reason to yell at others around you, simply inform them that your mood is not great but that you are doing your best to not let it affect others around you and for them to be patient.

If they don’t respect that then they can just leave.

Don’t let anyone tell you that you shouldn’t feel negative emotions, that they are bad or that they aren’t productive. Being positive all the time isn’t any better and it isn’t human.

Of course this is just my opinion, I would never shun someone for having a bad mood. If you are angry, or sad, or distressed in any way. Let me know what you need and I will help you with it as much as I can. I don’t expect others to do the same, but I love to help others, and helping them work through their negative feelings even just a little bit, makes my life worth living.

Take care of yourselves my Negative Nancy’s.

Talk to you next time.